Wednesday, March 21, 2018

EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS A NON-COMPETE CLAUSE


What's the key to a successful marriage? 

I believe adhering to a Non-Compete Clause should be written into every understanding of marriage! 

Successful marriages bring out the best in people. Partners encourage each other to find dreams and work toward them. Struggles come and go in an ebb and flow, but they exist together like the moon and sun. Sometimes, dreams even collide in the best of ways like dark chocolate and red chili. 

Yet, often I see marriages that seem to look more like wrestling matches, fault finding trips with the bride and groom becoming test takers seeking the answers to questions the other devised without knowledge to the information beforehand.

No one becomes a champion in these marriages because no one champions the other.  


These love contracts need to review a basic marriage agreement--- not to compete. They need a non-compete clause with the other for status, notoriety, attention, ease of life, jobs, workload, fault, and blame.  

This is a simple pre-condition to a good relationship.  In exchange for non-competing, the  marriage is blessed without hours of arbitrary limitations and the prospect of finding new avenues to dream and grow together, not against one another. 

I've overheard words spoken to the partner that strive to gain ground, secure recognition, and demonstrate superiority for everything from parenting expertise, employment, workloads, sacrifices made, moral fortitude, and financial input, which are sadly being won only by defeating their partner.

No one becomes a champion in these marriages because no one champions the other. 


Dreamers seeking a lasting love contract need to check their heart's preconceived conditions and intentions to adhere to a basic marriage agreement---                          not to compete 















Wednesday, March 7, 2018

WHEN YOUR YOUNG ONES LEARN TO STAND UP...

He's at that point in his life. It's a developmental milestone! He's learning to stand up. I definitely don't want to miss watching his attempts because he's very proud of his efforts. He's loving the whole new view of the world as he plays in cabinets, finds objects on top of coffee tables, and follows others up the stairs.  


This standing up stage doesn't come without some precarious moments. There's his constant wavering effort to gain the muscle needed to hold still without tumbling. This standing life feels like a balancing act, but the view from the top is exhilarating enough to secure the climb. 





Success in this climb to stand requires a focused, teetering wire act.  It won't come without some bruises and noggin bumps. 

And from his smiling, straight leg stand, the view down appears tumultuous. As if it's an afterthought, he realizes that what stands up must find a smooth landing as his legs begin to feel weak. 


Contemplating his decent is frightening, so he thankfully relies on engrained skills of reaching, grasping, and clinging to dig in to his standing position and then release himself to trust for a gentle decent. Occasional falls find him catching himself with outstretched hands and looking around for assurance on nearby faces that all will be okay.

Lots of vocal encouragement  comes, and still it's going to require quite a bit more support, balancing, and confidence to not just stand but to take those steps to walk alone without familiar fingers holding him tight. Sweet encouraging words, hand claps, reassuring smiles bolden him to gain the ground he seeks without bended knee failure. But when the failure comes, he will rise in strong arms to soothe his aches and softly pat his bottom to move on to another venture. 


Watching my grandson in this stage of his young life, reminded me of our younger generation currently embarking on the stage today. The parallels of the stages are remarkable.



So, I also wish all this support, encouragement, smiles, and hand claps for this young generation as they begin this developmental milestone of trying to stand up. Muscling to stand up strong for principles they believe in.  Trying to grasp to ideals with confidence while teetering on new legs, balancing the juggling act of approval and criticism.



It's the stage every citizen should hope for---when their younger generation uses the skills they have been given to stand up on the tumultuous stage of public opinion and let their voices be heard.



As they gain view of the world, let us give them the confidence to walk in these new steps even when the landing may not be smooth.  Let us provide the outstretched hands and reassurance when they feel like their teetering And most of all, let us teach them that the strong arms of the Father will hold them up and soothe their heartaches and pat their soul onward for future ventures.






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